"I know who I am, and who I may be, if I choose." Miguel Cervantes
This will be the one and only time I respond directly to you. And though normally I don't censor anything in this diary I will out of respect (not for you...) for your "boyfriend."
Let's go down the "I've-seen-people-suffering" road. Let's take a stroll.
Unlike you I never had to watch my friend's mom struggle with cancer.
I had to watch my own mother struggle with it. And in fact, one day I will probably be struggling with it because of my genetics. I tell you this not to engage your sympathies, if you even have any to give anyway, but to further emphasize your "anonymous" quote at the end of your entry. It seems to me that you know nothing of suffering, forgive me for not knowing your "motives" but that is how I see it. Watching your friend endure something is nothing compared to watching it when it happens to someone that you could very well die without.
I have had to endure hardships in this world that you cannot even imagine especially with regards to what your beloved has told me of you. You seem to stem from a priveleged family whereas it is not the same for me. However, I have the greatest respect for what people accomplish and the greatest understanding for what they cannot. If someone is happy with their current position be it in life, work, relationships, etc who the hell are you to bitch about it? Just because someone isn't at the top of the world doesn't mean they're slaving away in Purgatory.
I encourage my friends when I think they need it and want it. I don't force my opinions on what they should or shouldn't do because it's not right. As the old saying goes, "Walk a mile in another man's shoes before you pass judgment." Yes, I can use lots of quotes too. There are times when I want to slap my friends and help bring them back to reality - but guess what? You can't live someone's life for them. That's not how it works...
So, next time perhaps you should think before you speak. Or maybe try living on your own without any help from anyone. See how easy it is and get back to me.
A negative judgment gives you more satisfaction than praise, provided it smacks of jealousy.
~Jean Baudrillard
*Always.
Caitlin
Sometimes those most worthy of love are not made happy by it. ~Dangeous Liaisons
It is on the strength of observation that one finds a way; so we must dig and delve unceasingly. ~Claude Monet 1840-1926