How many of you are honest with your frieds even if you know it will be hurtful? I think that I am; I do it because I know I would want the same in return and I feel that it is a small amount of integrity that I can display in today's world where there seems to be so little.
Someone told me that I tend to make things about me even when they're not...maybe I do; maybe I don't. All I know is that issues that I find to be important usually DO affect me even if they aren't ABOUT me. My friends' behaviors reflect upon me and also (maybe even if I don't see it directly) influence me. I find that once a person makes a mistake that that is their chance to learn a lesson and take hold of the information and use it for next time a similar situation may occur.
I feel that if a person continues a certain bad or self-damaging behavior that they are either A) stupid or B) truly ignorant of their choices and actions...if it's B I tend to believe that are most likely mentally handicapped or schizophrenic. Now, don't get all PC and crazy on me here...I'm serious! It takes very little to realize when one has made the same mistake over and over and OVER again. I think that if you continue on the same bad path then you are not getting the lesson and even if you are that each time you "learn" it, it comes to mean less and less.
This particular scenario happens to be true of a friend of mine - no names will be mentioned because of journalistic slander laws (not really...I just don't wanna deal with the whining). This girl I know - she's smart, she's pretty, she's a good and beautiful person, wonderful, caring, funny and most of all a very, very genuine person. However, one of her main faults is that she has no spine when it comes to males - she'll accept anything with a dick...as in, as long as she has the attention and the feeling of "being loved" he's acceptable. I can't stand this because every fucking time she gets hurt she depends upon me (and a very few others) to console her. Now, I'll give credit where credit is due believe me...but this girls' credentials blow like a sperm whale. I shouldn't have to be the consoler or mediator in any of my friend's relationships. I am friends with the people I am friends with because I know them and they know me, it's about us - not about guys or trivial issues of being in like or getting over a guy. Guys screw up everything, seriously. Now I am not sexist, I know there are a lot of good men out there, but it seems that the only one's that she can find are the morons, freaks, losers, cheaters, and liars.
What a world - when you can describe half the population in terms of degrading adjectives...
*Always.
Caitlin
Sometimes those most worthy of love are not made happy by it. ~Dangeous Liaisons
It is on the strength of observation that one finds a way; so we must dig and delve unceasingly. ~Claude Monet 1840-1926